SOCIAL DISTANCING

All my life I had always felt that friendships and true relationships are based on something which is simple, genuine and absolutely natural. Wanting to stay connected and being there for each other. Where you do not have to think twice before calling or have any ego issues. Where you share almost everything in your mind and on the face of the earth with trust and without any fear of being judged. Where you connect at all levels and blossom with ease. Where the need to do things for the other person is not out of any obligation but a simple, natural phenomena which make you feel happy from within.

And then I realized I was wrong. My thinking was backward. The world around me had changed. Now people think if we connect with them, call them, text them out of genuine care and love we have low self-worth. We do not have anything better to do and are imposing on them, on their space. By doing this we generate a needy kind of vibe as if we are forcing them to connect with us, to give us their time and attention.

Whoa! Is that so? Well then time to check and stop doing such things immediately my friend!

I disagree with this notion, though. I believe where there is true relationship involved, the conversations are free flowing. The urge to share is spontaneous. The happiness to stay connected is genuine. The connect is natural, warm and without any kind of imposing. Everyone in today’s time is super busy and stressed out. Work-life balance, looming dead-lines, personal goals and dreams keep us stressed and busy. And even in such situations if a person repeatedly makes a genuine attempt to reach out to you out of true care and feelings and in response all you feel is repulsion for this act then there is no one unfortunate that you in this world. You must realize that ‘Giving’ is a beautiful thing. Giving your time (which is a part of your life), sharing knowledge, sharing happiness … etc is only possible when you are complete from within. Only then can you give. Then how do you find a Giver to be a needy person? How can you call such a person negative when it is you who is continuously seeing such a pure act with negativity because of your own selfish reason?

I realized there is no value or worth of genuine feelings. I have learnt who are my genuine friends and who are there just for the ‘good times’ based on their convenience and mood. I have now reduced my circle and closed it tight. There is no space in this inner world for selfish and judging people. I have learnt to distance myself not just physically but mentally and emotionally as well to secure your own vibes, positivity and peace.